My 2 cents on Brock Turner, Emily Doe, the #StanfordRape case and #rapeculture

Jun 9th, 2016 14 min read

For days now, the Internet has been buzzing about the former Stanford University swimming star convicted of sexually assaulting an unconscious woman, the incredibly powerful statement she courageously read at his sentencing hearing, the suspect’s baffling refusal to take responsibility for his behavior, the absurdly lenient sentence the judge handed down, the asinine letter written by the suspect’s father in which he described a brutal…

‘You Deserve Rape’

May 28th, 2016 6 min read

In my line of work, I have to be objective about the stories I write despite what my head might be screaming. Today was such a day. I wrote about a young woman who was arrested for hitting a self-proclaimed preacher in the head. I just want to give her a high five and say “Way to go!” Now I know violence is wrong. Nobody…

Anybody got a match?

May 10th, 2016 3 min read

A year ago I made a decision and embarked on a journey that led to me disclosing things about myself that I thought I’d never tell anyone, let alone my friends, my coworkers, everyone I’ve ever met and the entire internet. Life has been interestingly mundane since then. I’ve been fan-freaking-tastic, meh, pretty damn good, OK, so-so, awful, morose, amazing, depressed, inspired — you name…

Flatline

Jan 15th, 2016 4 min read

I am a flatliner. Not in the way the word implies.  I am typing, after all, which means I must be alive. Because my heart is still beating, Kiefer Sutherland, Kevin Bacon, William Baldwin and Julia Roberts would have absolutely no interest in the kind of flatline I am experiencing. Like their characters in the 1990 Joel Schumacher movie “Flatliners,” I am looking for meaning in my…

Struggling

Nov 18th, 2015 5 min read

Have you seen my mojo? No? Me neither. My mojo seems to have abandoned me, and I have no idea why. I blame IVE, naturally. So once I made my goal of losing 42 pounds by my 42nd birthday, I promptly proceeded to gain a significant portion of it back over the next few weeks. Not all of it, thank goodness. Not even half. Less…

Time to make a U-ey

Oct 17th, 2015 3 min read

So I kind of fell off the weight-loss wagon and landed with a serious thunk. OK, that’s not quite true. I didn’t fall off; I was thrown. That’s not right either. I jumped. I took a big ol’ running start and leaped off the weight-loss wagon. It was quite graceful until I botched the landing. While I can’t say for certain that it was a…

I did it! I did it! I did it!

Oct 1st, 2015 4 min read

Reaching a goal. There’s no feeling like it. Particularly when you weren’t at all sure you could do it. When I embarked on this weight-loss journey back in May, I didn’t have a specific goal. It was a few weeks before I came up with something that seemed reasonable. I wanted to be down 42 pounds by my 42nd birthday. Early progress made it seem…

Finding the positive

Sep 18th, 2015 6 min read

I’ve been putting off writing for a bit because I’m extremely disappointed in myself and my apparent lack of progress over the past month. Naturally, if I’m disappointed in myself, I must have let down everyone I’ve ever met and his or her mother, too. (How’s that for self-centered thinking?) So, what’s my deal? If you’ve been watching my weekly weigh-ins, you know that I’ve been…

Who am I?

Sep 2nd, 2015 10 min read

While every fiber of my being wants to belt out “Two, four, six, oh, ooonnnne!” at the top of my lungs in answer to that question, I am not Jean Valjean. The honest answer, which might seem weird, is that I’m not entirely sure most days. I can use a plethora of adjectives and phrases to describe myself, but that tells you what I am….

Stumbling along

Aug 19th, 2015 4 min read

A few weeks ago I had one of the two weigh-ins I had been dreading for weeks — no movement on the scale. It was OK. I got through it with little to no mental anguish and bounced back, losing four pounds over the next two weeks. Today, the second dreaded weigh-in — the truly bad one — happened. The number on the scale went up….