Hello, Chocolate, my old friend

Sep 26th, 2017 5 min read

Once upon a time, I set a goal of losing 42 pounds by my 42nd birthday. It took me five months and a strict-ass diet, but I did it.And then I undid it. Completely. Slowly at first. Holidays, you know. And then all at once. That’s how John Green’s character Hazel Grace Lancaster describes falling in love in “The Fault in Our Stars.” And then…

rizona State University police officers will wear their support for sexual assault survivors on their uniforms' sleeves for the next month.

Speaking volumes without uttering a word

Apr 2nd, 2017 8 min read

It’s truly amazing how things change over the years. Earlier this week, I had the pleasure of posting a short story about the special patches officers with the Arizona State University Police Department will be wearing during the month of April – Sexual Assault Awareness Month. Those patches are meant not only to raise awareness about sexual assault – which is still far too prevalent,…

If you can’t say somethin’ nice…

Oct 5th, 2016 4 min read

Normally, I’d finish that sentence with, “come sit by me.” I confess to being snarky and sarcastic. But I’m not mean. At least I try not to be. I see no value in it. It accomplishes nothing. Of course, while there are things that we all can agree are unequivocally mean (We know ’em when we see ’em.), what constitutes meanness can vary from person…

Weird shit happens to me

Sep 20th, 2016 13 min read

This is so not the blog post I planned to write this week, but life happens. See that title up there? It’s true. It’s been true for as long as I can remember. For reasons I no longer try to understand, I am a magnet for weird shit — good and bad. The latest was bad. Decidedly bad. If you follow me on Facebook, you…

Suggestions welcome

Sep 13th, 2016 6 min read

I want a new goal. And for some odd reason, my brain thinks that sentence is the perfect reason to loop Huey Lewis and the News. One guess what song. If you’re my age this will be a no-brainer. There. Now we all have an earworm. You’re welcome. (Yes, I thought about reworking the lyrics, but couldn’t come up with anything good. Weird Al Yankovic…

My 2 biggest fears (not including clowns)

Aug 27th, 2016 5 min read

When I was watching a movie recently — a comedy — I was stunned to hear the characters confess to two of my biggest fears. I actually ran the movie back to make sure I heard right. I watched the scene three or four times. Why? Because it was proof that these fears I harbor are not weird or unusual. At least one other person…

Traitorous body!

Jun 25th, 2016 5 min read

Sometimes you can do everything right, and your body still goes behind your back and betrays you. That’s what’s happening to me right now. At least on the surface. Whhhhyyyyy? (You know you heard Nancy Kerrigan’s voice in your head just then. If you don’t get the reference — “The Whack Heard Round the World” — click here, ’cause I ain’t explaining it.) Anyway, I…

Putting on my big girl pants

Jun 21st, 2016 2 min read

I faced Tanita for a moment of truth on Thursday, and as I expected, it wasn’t pretty. But it wasn’t soul-shattering either. Tanita is a straightforward bitch. Always brutally honest. She never sugarcoats things, but she’s not mean either. That’s probably because she’s electronic and cannot sneer in disgust. But I like to think she wouldn’t if she could. Yes, I’m stalling. Here goes. (Deep breath)…

newGoal = originalGoal + 5

Jun 14th, 2016 3 min read

If we’re Facebook friends, you probably noticed this little equation on my page a couple of weeks ago. Yes, I have set another goal. I was having trouble coming up with something meaningful so I looked at what I did last year. I wanted to lose 42 pound by my 42 birthday. I thought about doing 43 by 43, but having been there, done that,…

Owning up

Jun 11th, 2016 8 min read

The sexual assault of a young woman known only as Emily Doe at the hands of a former Stanford swimming star has stirred up a rather passionate conversation about taking responsibility for one’s actions. Now convicted of three felony counts of sexual assault and sentenced to an absurdly short six months in jail — not prison — the young man (I use the word “man”…